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I took considerable time and effort to compose this FAQ which will provide answers to most if not all of your questions. Failure to properly read and digest the questions and answers below and then asking stupid questions will only serve to greatly annoy Me--something I am quite certain you would prefer not to do.

What is BDSM&F?
Succinctly, BDSM is an umbrella acronym that broadly encompasses bondage, domination, submission, slavery, sadomasochism and fetish although BDSM is often incorrectly used to designate the fetish scene as a whole.

What is domination and submission?
Domination and submission is the negotiated surrender of a submissive's
will and control to a Dominant although this is but a very basic definition of a very complex relationship. For more detail, see the bibliography page.

What is fetishism?
Fetishism, rather loosely defined,  is an erotic or sexual fixation or adoration directed towards inanimate objects or materials, specific role-play activities
or worship of body parts such as feet. Fetish objects can actually be animate
or inanimate but a fetishist's stimulation comes from attraction to one or more specific subjects, objects or materials. Some extreme forms would be brown showers and necrophilia. For more detail, see the bibliography page.

What is a dominatrix, domina or mistress? Are they different?
No, they are all titles for a female Dominant conversant in BDSM&F. The professional dominatrix (pro domme) usually operates from private or cooperative chambers and provides clandestine sessions for clients. She typically possesses Her own collection of BDSM equipment and a variety of costumes for various role-playing. For more detail see the bibliography and resources pages.

How long have you been a professional dominatrix?
I have been a professional dominatrix for more than 20 years but My interests
in BDSM and fetish extend far beyond that. I am a natural Dominant. I could no more change who I am than change my skin and eye color. See My biography for more details.

So are you "dominant" all the time?
I suppose it all depends on one's definition of dominant. No, I do not wear My leather, whips and chains to dinner parties if that's what you mean. If you are truly sincere, our first conversation will be basically cordial and I will be both approachable and friendly--unless you are just another jerk-off. Then it will change. As for your session, once it begins you will immediately know the meaning of "dominant."

Do you ever switch for sessions?
No, never, whether in session or out. See the question above. It is not in My
nature to switch and you would do well to remember that rather important bit
of information.

Do you ever do out-call sessions?
On occasion but all of My security precautions must be satisfied first including name, address and phone number among other proofs of identity. There will be no exceptions of any kind. I also do public shopping, party and dinner domination sessions.

What is the difference between a lifestyle mistress and pro domme?
Strictly speaking, a professional mistress extracts tribute for Her generous attention. A lifestyle mistress does not although many pro dommes are also lifestyle mistresses in their personal lives such as Myself. However, what I do outside of our sessions is no concern of yours.

Are you a lifestyle mistress also?
Absolutely. See the lifestyle page for more information.

What do Your tattoos and piercings symbolize?
They each represent significant aspects of My spirituality, sexuality and heritage. Piercings are just another portion of My tribal and Gothic affiliations. Unfortunately for slaves and submissives, they will seldom be allowed to see them all.

Can you be gentle with Me? I'm a real novice.
Of course, BDSM&F is not solely about sadomasochism. Many of My slaves prefer the psychological, erotic and sensual aspects of BDSM. At any rate, you are just as assiduously controlled and dominated.

May I drink alcohol or take drugs or medications to calm my nerves?
Absolutely not. I forbid any drug use in My presence. Not only do they dull your senses but drug usage is physically dangerous to be under the influence of meds while in-session.

May I ask how tall you are?
Of course. I am 5' 10" without heels and well in excess of six feet in pumps
or boots. Please see My attributes page for other additional physical details.

How come different mistresses have different titles such as Domina?
Simple preference according to the Dominant in question. There is no real difference in usage but you should address every mistress as She prefers.

Will my Mistress have sex with Me?
Absolutely not.. While I possess a long and illustrious reputation as an elite courtesan that does not mean I still do so and certainly not with submissives
or slaves. Yes, I did work as a courtesan while also being a pro domme over the years but I never had sex of any kind with slaves or submissives and never will. You are paying tribute to be in My presence--nothing more.

Can I become a permanent 24/7 slave to You?
Quite possibly but you must earn that consideration. I usually see you on a tribute basis initially and see if you indeed possess the potential to serve Me on a 24/7 basis. I do make a few select exceptions for demonstrated commitment. I select such slaves when and as I see fit and I am taking applications now.

What are Your hours?
I typically accept appointments between 11 am and 9 pm on Monday-Friday
and on occasional weekends. All appointments require at least a 48 hour advance notice. See the availability page for My open calendar. Every new
client is required to make an advance deposit before their first session.
Once you have successfully completed the application process, you will
be instructed how to pay your advance deposit.

Why do you require a deposit for new clients?
Because it helps eliminate the majority of time-wasting morons. I require 50% deposits for all new clients and all out-call sessions. It's simple enough. I have to properly dress and prepare for a session and I don't do it for free. Especially if you fail to show. Either pay the appropriate deposit as required or don't apply to see Me.

Why do you want my telephone number? Are you going to call Me?
No, I do not desire to contact you except to confirm that you are not a complete wanker and meet My security requirements. If I have not seen you previously and you don't provide a valid phone number to confirm your identity, I require
the full tribute in advance before scheduling an appointment. Regardless,
you will still have to satisfactorily prove your identity upon arrival.

Where are you located?
Accessible downtown Seattle. I also see submissives and slaves in Bellingham and Vancouver, BC. Directions and address are provided once
you have completed the application process and have satisfied My security requirements. 

Can I have your location in advance ?
Not hardly. If you are a new client, you will be given the location upon calling one hour before your appointment--not before. There are no exceptions. My chambers location is not provided until I have established your true identity.

Do you smoke?
No, I detest smoking and I do not incorporate it any BDSM&F activities. It is a very disgusting habit and one I do not tolerate. Do not smell of smoke when
you arrive for a session.

Do you offer telephone or other virtual training?
Yes, I do on a very selective basis. See the e-mail, telephone, webcam and chat training page. It can be quite productive with a forceful Dominant like Me.

Could you travel to see  or accompany Me while traveling?
Yes, it is possible for selective submissives and slaves. All travel must be business class or better and both My travel and tribute must be paid in full in advance. You typically must be an established client to be considered but I do make occasional exceptions. See the availability page for My schedule.

Do you offer online training?
Yes, I do for seriously committed submissives and slaves. See the virtual training page for more details and technical requirements. Get ready for Me.

Do you see females or couples?
Yes, I do. In fact, I enjoy such sessions immensely. Of course, female submissives are always welcome in My presence. However, heterosexual couples enquiries must originate with the female partner. Either party may contact Me for lesbian and gay male couples. See the main women only
page for more details.

Are you looking for help with your web site and/or computer?
Not usually but advise Me if you have database or PHP expertise. I am exceptionally design and computer-literate and the entire site was created by Me. That includes all content development. When I do utilize slave labor for site development, it is only with slaves I have known and seen for an exceptionally long time. My primary interest currently would be PHP development for forums and chat.

Can you tell Me when you are next online for a chat?
You must be joking. I do not simply sit online waiting for the next wanker to
buzz Me for a quick freebie. However, for private chat sessions, review the virtual training page.

Do you offer overnight stays?
Yes I offer both overnight and weekend sessions but usually only with well-known slaves. I make a few exceptions but I prefer getting to know you first.

Are your equipment and toys clean?
Yes, they are sterilized after each session without exception every time.

What about things like dildos and butt plugs?
I do not maintain insertables in My chambers. Any clients desiring such personalized activity must bring their own toys for what I hope are obvious health and hygienic reasons.

How will I feel after a session?
Feelings vary, of course, but you will usually feel euphoric, elated or extremely relaxed. BDSM&F is an exceptional means of relieving stress and leaves one in somewhat of a floating feeling. I would not recommend any detailed activities immediately afterwards--nor anything involving machinery as they say. 

But can I stop the session at any time? Will I be punished for doing so?
Of course, you can stop the session at any time and it will not reflect poorly on you but only once. Be sure you know what you are interested in before arriving.

Can I count on Your discretion?
I have the greatest respect for privacy and confidentiality, Yours and mine. I generally discourage clients from posting graphic session details. Generic, positive postings are fine but more than that tends to expose too much and perhaps betrays personal and professional trust. I have a long and well-established international reputation as a discreet professional.

What do you wear during a session?
Whatever I desire although usually something in black. I will also determine My wardrobe depending on the type of scene for obvious reasons, e.g. infantilism.

Can I buy your used lingerie, panties and stockings?
Yes, you can. Please see My personal effects page for more information about My used panties, stockings, bras, shoes, dildos and menstrual, urinary, fecal, hair and other body worship packs.

Will you mark Me?
Not if you indicate otherwise. Just tell Me in advance what degree of marking
is acceptable according to your own specific circumstances. I respect such boundaries like any competent pro domme..

Are cameras allowed?
Never unless previously agreed between Myself and clients. Even then, I must personally approve the photos or video. You don't leave My chambers before I review the media. I also provide both custom and session video and audio services for keepsakes.

Can I bring my own toys?
Yes. If you have toys, clothes or equipment that you prefer used on you, bring them by all means. 

Do I get a discount by being a regular?
Not in the least. Haggle with Me once and you will be promptly shown the door.
I am not a discount commodity. If that is what you desire, look elsewhere-now.

I never got a reply to my e-mail or phone call. Why not?
More than likely, your phone or e-mail message was probably self-indulgent mental masturbation. If it was inappropriately sexual, overly familiar, crudely vulgar, obviously illiterate, clearly underage or failed to precisely follow My instructions, I deleted it. I do not leave voicemail unless requested for
obvious security and confidentiality reasons.

But I did follow your instructions and still no reply.
Not likely. You probably already have a negative track record with Me and other mistresses as a no-show, a needy parasite, a pathetic wanker or just general waste of time. I welcome sincere supplicants but have no time for posers.

Will You laugh if my fetish is considered weird?
No, not  at all and you could not shock Me if you tried. I have probably already seen it before. If for some reason I do not wish to be involved, I will decline.

I want to learn to be a female dominant. Can BDSM be taught?
Of course. Like any other human skill, BDSM&F can be learned to a degree
with the proper mindset. I teach seminars and workshops on BDSM&F for individuals, couples and groups and also provide private training. Obviously, there is a hourly fee.

Should I arrive with a gift for You?
It is not required but it does impress Me with your genuine sincerity. If you decide to do so, please review My wish list page for suggestions. Such
sincere thoughtfulness touches My heart.

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